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Open Board / Re: Where does Grero start? Gay versus a sliding scale of orientation.
« on: April 27, 2014, 10:02:18 AM »Quote
This excuse still negates the current theory whereby sexual orientation is innate and not made by boredom.
You are right, of course, the "boredom" theory is actually folk wisdom. It is the first "explanation" that most parents in denial will latch onto. "A bit of discipline, a bit of healthy activity and all these 'twisted' thoughts should disappear". Nevertheless, it does have a kernel of truth, in that the more time and opportunity one has to pursue sex the more open-minded one might become.
Ironically, this folk wisdom appears to show that most people can imagine circumstances in which they would...
I wonder sometimes whether the system of beliefs that, until recently, proscribed homosexual behaviour and nowadays tolerates it only with the condition of labelling the participants as gay, is something that has evolved to keep a certain kind of jealousy at bay. In societies where males are strictly segregated from females, I believe that homosexual activity in youth is quite widespread but marriage is supposed to stop it. In societies in which females have a choice to select their mates, however, it seems to make sense that those engaging in homosexual behaviour should be labelled and ghettoised. How would traditional women deal with men not actually needing them for sex? It may be a little bit threatening, and not only to the females. There are two guys at my wife's work that are greatly feared for their powerful alliance which almost nobody can fathom... One of them is married with a kid, the other unmarried but with a history of relationships with women. We went to the office Christmas party and from there to pubs and clubs until late. At 2 am the most fun can be had in gay bars; everybody and their uncle goes there... To cut a long story short, I caught them blowing each other in the toilets, only because I was also entertaining the thought and looked over the partition. I haven't told anybody, boys will be boys...
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other exploits with men and women are still mentioned without any hint of harm
Again, could we put this down to their particular type of slave-owning society in which sexual access to slaves was accepted? Things are quite different in our society. I wonder, even if we peeled off the judeo-christian veneer, would we enjoy as much freedom sexually as we think? I don't know, but if research showed that we could, we might...
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Anything long-term come of these?
No, but commitment wasn't sought. I am committed, believe it or not, to my family. This is something I need to do occasionally, with another consenting adult. Of course the thought of a relationship with a man has crossed my mind. I watched "A Single Man" and I envied their love, but as the Spanish Philosopher says 'Yo soy yo y mi circunstancia'.
All the best,
Schwep